When bosses
and managers as well as others in such positions, use their authority to gain
something for their own personal purposes, rather than to focus on job related
matters it is abuse of power and disrespect for the position they hold.
When such
people in leadership positions make sexual advances toward others that is
disrespectful. And if a person in a leadership
position terminate someone for refusing to become involved in a relationship
with him or her, that is abuse of power and disrespectful for that individual’s
rights.
A Personal
Story:
I have experienced such treatment.
A man I
worked with went outside of his management position. He wanted to control my
personal life. He once told me he had
made reservations for a hotel room for me out of town;
Further stating,
“Some of our business partners will be there too.”
I felt uncomfortable with the trip and hotel,
and did not go. He was very angry with me for the decision I made, not to go out
of town.
I knew this man was attracted to me. He kept
arranging alone time for us, and I kept showing up with someone else, and he
kept getting angry with me. I did not share the feelings for him, that he had for me.
Reasons: I
love the man, I am married to. Also, character matters to me.
He was not going to give up, and I was not going to give in. His attitude was making me very uncomfortable
working with him. I decided to move into
a location several miles away from him. He became furious with me, and demanded
that I return to his location, and followed up with a threat:
“If you don’t, they can make it hard for you.” This was understood to mean those in
leadership positions at the top in the company, would cause harm to me.
I refused to
move back to his location. And he carried out his threat. He and those he referred to terminated me; took away my clients, and stopped my financial income.
They forced
me into financial distress. I could not pay my debts from business related
financial responsibilities. This behavior is leadership abuse of power.
__ Ellen J. Barrier
Author/Medical Professional/Musician/Other
